After news broke on Friday, regarding the Supreme Court – I want to give you a real life scenario regarding the implications of the SCOTUS decision. #roe I felt it was time to share my story, like so many others – whose lives could be affected.
I’ve been pregnant twice in my life. Once I had a miscarriage before I even knew I was pregnant. My body did what it naturally does when that happens (if you’re “lucky”). The second time I was pregnant with our “Miracle Baby” as the doctors called it, things turned horribly wrong. We went through every test and every doctors appointment prior to becoming pregnant to do everything possible for this little human to arrive healthy, sometimes, all you can do is not enough.
I don’t think some of “these people” realize how common it is for a woman to miscarry. I know I certainly had no idea. Women are so brave – Like the majority of women, I am beside myself with the SCOTUS decision to leave decisions so important to basic life (and death) – to politics. For instance, Governor McMaster – South Carolina – prides himself on making all abortions illegal. Those who have been raped, or cases of incest or LIFE OF THE MOTHER – do not matter. The answer is NO, he says with a smile that makes my skin crawl.
The procedure you undergo when a miscarriage won’t leave your body the way nature intended is a D&C (abortion). Everything happened so quickly when we received the news.. which was the day after we flew to MI for a beautiful baby shower that my family had for us. The next morning, I knew something was wrong – went to the ER, they confirmed it. I think my heart broke that day.
The horror of knowing you’re losing a baby, and the fact that you have to read, sign, and wait 24 hours to think about what you’re doing… are you kidding me? (Not to mention the pain, the sadness and the grief that seems endless. (Not to mention a hurricane which we had to evacuate for, but that’s another story). Between that and the anesthesiologist who didn’t give me enough of the “don’t remember” part of the anesthesia – I could hear the nurse yell to “give her more” – I could feel the tears pouring down my face.
Who knew, that I would be one of the lucky ones? One that wouldn’t have to face death because the Governor of my state thinks so little of women and their rights. Abortion is healthcare, like it or not. It is what it is. The billions of us who have had to go through it don’t need to give you a reason why, we don’t need 24 hours to “think about it”. Seriously, do you think we have thought about literally ANYTHING else? This is healthcare, pure and simple. To think otherwise is a judgement that will take the lives of many. I cannot imagine how doctors feel – taking an oath to “do no harm” yet having to let women die because of an asinine law based on a political party to feel more control over women? Many of us wanted nothing more than to see our unborn child arrive alive and well. We prayed for that day, had hopes and dreams… Others struggling with decisions on how they could possibly go forward and support a child. Open your minds – think about what’s been done for political reasons. It’s not clear cut. Every situation is different. My situation was so benign compared to what many women are going through. Yet to me, it was the world. I am just so thankful that I am beyond childbearing years. I’m thankful our daughter is in Heaven, where she passed peacefully prior to the procedure. That was my saving grace. Not everyone is as fortunate.
Yes, who knew that I would be one of the lucky ones?
This is my story – I try to write positive posts, feature artists, house plan or recipes that I enjoy to share with you all, to bring a smile. But sometimes I need to let you know my story, especially when it matters so much. The time has come to have compassion for others, to open your mind to what others may have gone through/are going through. This is not a clear cut issue.
If you read this far, thank you for listening. I’m good, I promise! And, I’ll be back to positive posts this week.
🙏 Until next time…